I mentioned last week, that I was reading the book After the Baby's Birth...A Woman's Way to Wellness: A Complete Guide for Postpartum Women. The most helpful part of the book for me was the list I found on page 260 titled: Coping with PPD.
- Make sure you get enough rest.
- Do something for youself each day.
- Take a good look at your diet.
- Avoid isolation.
- Exercise everyday.
- Relax. Meditate or pray.
- Let some things go.
- Seek professional help.
So, I set myself some rules to cope and I am doing much better. I am still struggling, but I am coping as opposed to letting it all continue as it was.
So my rules look something like this:
- Get to bed by 10:00 pm! Done deal, no excuses. A new mom needs sleep and getting to bed earlier sure helps.
- Do something with my hands everyday! I need to be creative. It relaxes me and gives me a sense of accomplishment to work with my hands. I love to knit or sew!!!
- Diet! Arghhhh! I hate that word. We are a grain-free family, so I think a lot about what we eat. Our meals are made from scratch, but I must remember where I live. I live in Canada and have a high need for Vitamin D. I also am celiac and tend to be low on the B vitamins. I am breastfeeding, so I need to get lots of Calcium and Magnesium. And I love to drink coffee with almond milk and sugar. --- So I just started taking vitamins again (I shouldn't have stopped)and asked my dear husband to remind me if I forget. And I now take my coffee (max one a day) without the sugar. What a difference the vitamins make!!!
- Avoid isolation. I try to get out more. Last week, I made it out with all of the kids to two homeschool events. The -15 to -20C temps on the weekend kept us in for the most part.
- Exercise everyday. --- That one needs work. Doesn't chasing kids count?
- Relax. Meditate or pray. --- We started praying the rosary as a family again and I am making more of an effort to pray on my own, daily. It should be a given, but I am not a perfect Catholic, I am a practising one. (emphasis goes on the practising)
- Let some things go. --- For me this isn't about not doing the laundry or dishes as the writer suggests. In my case, I need to let go of the hurt and pain of the past. I need to stop bashing myself. This needs a lot of work. My low self-esteem is not the example I want to radiate to a lovely daughter.
- Seek professional help.--- I called Catholic family services, but it is so expensive. I am just going to have to try to cope on my own for now. If things get worse, I will talk to the priest or a doctor. That reminds me that I need to find a family doctor.
I want to thank you for stopping by and reading this post. Please share if you have ever struggled with post partum depression. What helped you? How did you cope?
St. Michael, pray for us.